Rolayo's Journal is the very interesting story of a young lady. It's a journal that showcases what she passes through- the fun times, the not-so-fun times, the temptations and the trials of her every day life. It's a journal being kept for her unborn child who she plans to call-"Kikelomo"....It's being featured on this blog occasionally on Tuesdays...or Thursdays. Just incase you missed the last journal entry you could catch up HERE
Here's the 36th journal entry...Enjoy!
You can never walk through this world alone. Well, you can try, but then it would be a cold, lonely and meaningless walk. The moment you understand the place of people and help in your life, that is the moment you get a cheat code to an aspect of success.
I hope you find really wonderful friends, and I really hope that really wonderful people find you and choose to be your friend. It is a priceless gift to have someone or some people who know you a little more than every other person. With this person or people, you are free to be you without being scared of being judged or looked down on because of your weirdness. Treasure them- they are priceless.
People have various relationship systems- some people like to have a lot of people around them all the time, and they can handle it because they are boisterous and can be the life of the large group. On the down-side, I once talked with a lady with similar traits, and I discovered that she was lonely. She is so good at taking care of people and keeping tabs on several people all at once, but she was bothered that none of this numerous people were actually prepared to really listen to her. She just wanted someone who’d care enough to be interested in her dreams, fears and aspirations. On the other end of the spectrum are the people who prefer to have just a few people- tested and trusted- who they can download all of their experiences, worries and joys to. For this individual however, they might not have as much friends and may be lonely when the select few are absent. But some people are just great at it- they have the best of both worlds. You better be smart and be this kind of person. LoL!
I noticed a while back that I had a bad habit of not maintaining friendships. Don’t get me wrong, not like I’m a bad friend- no, but you know the way some people have had certain buddies since they were toddlers and all- well I have maybe one or two of those. And we are not even super-buddies any more. I won’t try to justify this, all I’ll say is that I could have tried harder. So you should also try to maintain those friendships- if it will benefit both of you. It is a good thing. I read a book by one of these ancient Chinese greats called The Art of War, and I learnt a lot of things about life- some I agree with and others are questionable. One of the things that I learnt was knowing how to let go of people. It talked about having certain friendships for certain stages of life and when a major move, for example takes place, wisdom to know how to keep a connection without running up telephone bills and stuff. Well, to that I say- thank the Lord for Whatsapp and Skype. Some friendships are just too important to let go of.
My dear, there are also so many parasitic friendships oooo. Hian! Do not be the host body, neither allow yourself to be the parasitic insect. Hehe! Wonderful analogy- I know. The thing is, you just have to be weary, you should help help help, but when a friendship begins to drain your very essence, please let it go. Earlier on in my life, I was a victim of this type of friendship- emotionally draining, psychologically unsettling (don’t mind my heavy English). Do not dull it, anyone who wants to only TAKE from you, without attempting to bless you with the gift of giving, should be kept at arm’s length.You should add to your friend and your friend should also add something to you.
I think I have said quite a bit for one day about what I think about friendships, and so I leave you with these words;
Walk with me- be my friend
Follow me through this trip of life
Laugh with me and cry with me
Be my sister, my brother- be my friend
Pray for me- don’t give up on me
I’ll do the same, and trust you too
I know sometimes I make you mad, but we’ll laugh in the end
So tell me the truth- don’t lie to me
We’ll talk all day, and all night at times
Our secrets are safe in each others hearts
So let’s talk some more, and share our dreams
I love you my sister, my brother, my friend